Glen Of Scotland

I can't deal with this right now

I overheard someone say "I can't deal with this right now. they were having a problem. It's okay to do that, not deal with a situation until you feel better.

Unfortunately, a lot of people, as it was in this case keep talking about the issue, in a complaining way, keeping it active and keeping a solution away.

It might be better  if you don't want to deal with something to let it go, from thoughts and conversations until you do want to deal with it. Unless you are asking someone for a solution.

Mid point

We are fast approaching the half way point for the calender year, yes, time is going quickly. It's a great opportunity to just check in and see where you are with with what you want, any adjustments you would like to make, maybe you got off track a little.

There is still plenty  of time left for you to get back on track, all is not lost there are many examples of how things happen at the last minute. You may have read about the big lottery winner $232 million, the family had lost their home to foreclosure. Anything can happen.

So take this opportunity to let the negativity go and get back on track. The universe will keep bringing opportunities, it doesn't say, well you weren't paying attention the last time so it's over for you. No, the opportunities keep coming along without judgment, you have to be awake to see them and be willing to receive them too.   

Do more

I was recently in a Starbucks, somewhere in the US. I observed a young male come in and ask the manager if they had any jobs, she replied not at the moment and that they hold on to applications. He took and application and left.

A short while later a young woman came in and asked the manager if the had any jobs, she replied that she didn't at the moment and they hold on to applications. Then she said that they an opening at the store in the nearby mall.

I wondered why she was more helpful to female and not for the male. Well we tend to have a bias, sometimes it's for the same sex, sometimes it's for some thing that is familiar to us, such as the hair color, which was the same in this case, other times we just pick a vibe, what I would call energy. memories come in to play, it could be the male resembled someone from her past.

Some people are unaware that they do things like this, it is so ingrained. It might not be noticeable in some cases, others it is more noticeable, especially in families or at work. You may find less resentment if you do more for everyone, if that is too much of a struggle, be aware of who is watching and listening, humans are constantly evaluating whether they are being treated fairly. 

It might bring more ease into your life.

Grumbling

Imagine you are driving to work in the morning, how is the trip? Are you grumbling or complaining about getting up early, how about the traffic, how about gas prices, how about the rainy weather, how about the lack of parking spaces?

What mood are you in when you get to work? Happy or stressed?

Imagine you are driving to work in the morning, enjoying how well your car is going, how green things are from the rain, how everyone is on their way to somewhere, how well the drainage is working, how great it is to have free parking.

What mood are you in when you get to work? Happy or stressed?

Both scenarios are true at the same time, would you rather be happy or stressed?

 

Happy Father's Day!

I wish all the fathers out there a very happy day. I thought I would pose a few questions not just for fathers, also for those who love them, which is everyone, isn't it?

Why did you choose to be a father?
What is you love most about being a father?
What are your top 3 moments as a father?

What is the one thing you love most about your father?
What does your father do best?
If there is one good thing you would like to say to your father, what would it be?
Are you willing to say that thing to your father today?

Have a great day!

Lake trip 2

Lake trip

Progress

Last summer I revisited my first hike at 10,000 feet. A year had passed and I wanted to see how much better I was hiking at this high altitude. This hike was up 650 feet with a 4 mile round trip and visiting 3 lakes. My first attempt I only managed 1 lake and it was a struggle with many stops to get some breath, I could have continued, it didn't feel like ease though.

Importantly I was kind to myself, I didn't beat myself up and I knew I would make progress as I got used to climbing at such a high altitude. I went back a year later and went all the way up and all the way down with great ease, stopping for water and to take photographs.

Be kind to yourself in the beginning, you will get used to it and make progress.

 

 

Quote

No matter what the issue is, don't try to justify why you don't feel good. And don't try to justify why you should feel differently. Don't try to blame whatever it is you think the reason is that's keeping you from feeling good. All of that is wasted effort. Just try to feel better right now.

--- Abraham

Rising Again

I'm sure you have noticed over the last few weeks a jump in gas prices, though not to the levels we saw last year. This has been going on for a few years now, so it is something that is familiar, we are used to it and for the most part we manage.

The big question now that it is familiar, is your reaction any different, are you more accepting or are you still resisting? If you are accepting well done, if you are resisting and complaining again, how is that working out? How are you feeling?

If you would like to feel better, would you feel better if you stopped complaining? Not sure? Try it for a couple of weeks.

Still a winner

I'm sure you have heard by now the Scottish singing sensation Susan Boyle came in second in the British talent competition. The day after she was admitted to a clinic suffering from exhaustion. Although she didn't win the competition, she is still a winner and will make a cd and have a movie about her story made too.

There have been over 186 million viewings of the various videos on YouTube and I can't recall anyone jumping from obscurity to a global sensation in such a short period of time. All the intrusion into her life and all the interviews simply became too much for her to handle easily. I'm sure more could have been done to support her, however I think everyone was just caught up in it all.

What can we learn from this. What happened here was a quantum leap and  they are uncomfortable for everyone, more so in this case. On one hand we would love the instant success and the millions of dollars in our bank accounts one the other hand if we are living in obscurity and a few thousand dollars to our name we are not accustomed to everything that comes with those things. There are a lot of different pressures that come with these things and it's often better and more ease to get accustomed to smaller jumps along the way.

Very often lottery winners who suddenly come into millions lose it in a very short period of time as they are not used to having all that money and make unwise choices.

You might find it useful to visualize in your mind, doing all the media interviews, leaving your house with all the reporters and cameras waiting for you. Practicing what you will say to them, how you fit it all into your day, when you will get rest etc.

If it's money visualize what it's like with millions, dealing with a number of bankers, accountants, tax people, all the letters and charities what will you say yes to and no to. Just go into things on a deeper level, observe others who have what you want how do they deal with things etc.

The more you do those type of things the more familiar it will feel when you reach the level you want to reach. When it is familiar it will feel easier to live with all that comes with what you want.

Right place right time

This is an amazing story about the loss of long time pet and the almost simultaneous rescue of the new pet and saving of others too. Click here to read it. Sometimes I stand in awe of how this all works.

What are you noticing?

Are you noticing things that make you happy? Have you noticed when you do there are more things to be happy about?

Are you noticing things that make you sad? Have you noticed when you do there are more things to be sad about?

Are you noticing things that make you angry? Have you noticed when you do there are more things to be angry about?

Are you noticing things to complain about? Have you noticed when you do there are more things to complain about?

There are lots of things each and every day that fill those those scenarios,  when you realize that we have control over what we notice and pay attention to, we then know what comes next.

Nice to know what tomorrow will mostly be like!