I was recently in Los Angeles and brought my navigational system with me for an easy time driving. I even plugged in the addresses of each place I had to be ahead of time, organized chap that I am!
Leaving from the airport to downtown, the ladies voice on the navigation system directed me away from the highway and to some back roads,to areas I had never seen before. I could understand this as the highways are usually blocked in LA. I was in no rush so I went with the flow, traffic lights and all, and I did get to my hotel.
A couple of days later I was headed back to the airport for a meeting and took the highway to get there without any problems. Coming back from the airport at night though, the ladies voice was sending me back on the long route with traffic lights. After I twigged what was going on, I turned back, but no she wasn't having it, every time I turned, she found a way to turn me back to her route. I'm shouting at the contraption, no I'm going the highway and I was getting frustrated at it.
It may have been my imagination, okay it was my imagination, the ladies voice was getting frustrated too, maybe even slightly raised. How dare she! As I later reflected on all of this, I realized that when we are in the negative emotions, our mind plays tricks on us, we imagine a lot that is not there, but what we feel should be there under the circumstances and what we experienced in the past.
So keep that in mind when you accuse someone of doing and they maintain they didn't, they most likely are being truthful, especially if you are in that emotional state!
After driving around in circles for a few times, I realized in order to change from frustration to ease, I must change something that I have been doing that created the situation. In this case it was easy, instead of turning left, which I had kept doing and got frustrated, I took a right turn and kept going, the machine caught on and recalculated the route and I hit the 710 with light traffic and no traffic lights!
Some people strive to avoid the negative emotions and get very upset when they fail, and especially get upset when their kids are in those negative emotions. Were you ever told or do you say, "don't you get angry with me?!" Oh you too!.
Yet for people living a normal human life, you will be in those negative emotions on a regular basis, it's normal and it's human. The difference is how long we stay there, I was in and out in 20 minutes. It may take you less or more time, whatever you do make sure it doesn't go beyond the day.
It's very simple, to get out of it you must do, think or be something different than you were or doing before. I took a right instead of a left.